The Minute-Driven Woman


Big dreams + little minutes = LIFE

Author: Bo Stern | | @bolovesjoe

Hooo-weee, this has been a full, full season. It’s also been truly fun - one of the best of my life in fact, but I (and my incredible, amazing, too-good-to-be-true team) have been working hard and running fast.

In the past four months we have launched a web site and two different conferences which we have held five times. I have spoken at six other events while attempting to keep all the plates spinning at my actual job and in my actual home. This has meant getting up at 4:00 am and collapsing into bed at 8:30, hoping to stay awake until 9 because for some reason, 9 is a more respectable bedtime than anything that starts with 8. All I can say about this season is: I LOVE it. I couldn’t love it more. But I’ve also been on a steep learning curve in a half dozen different areas. One of those areas has been in setting goals. I’ve never been an awesome goal-getter, but I’m finding it essential now. My beloved has a brilliant business mind and has been helping me see the big picture - but also how the big picture MUST impact the way I live out the small moments or all the chart-building and dream-chasing in the world won’t amount to much.

My biggest takeaway from the last few months has been: Be purpose-driven, yes, but purpose is not a title on a business card, it’s the motivator that fills and fuels each of the minutes. I want to live in such a way that big goals and the hustle required to reach them, serve to enhance the little moments of my life rather than obscure them. To make this happen, I don’t need to hustle more, I need to S L O W down and pay more attention. In order to lean into what is happening inside any given moment, I often have to step outside of it and view it through the lens of eternity.

Some recent moments that have nearly taken my breath away:

  • Worshiping with 65 women in a mountain lodge, and watching them pour all their dreams back on Jesus’ feet.

  • Sitting on a bed in my hotel room, playing New Wine over and over as Jesus reminded me why I’m here.

  • Listening to a thousand women sing, “I will build my life upon Your love, it is a firm foundation…”

  • Praying with woman after woman as she said a brave Yes to living wildly free.

  • Family dinner around the fire at our favorite restaurant, hearing stories of music-making and video production and dating and loving and parenting.

  • Filming my grandsons on my phone as they made their own commercials for gummy LifeSavers which they had just discovered, made them extra smart and very fast.

  • Talking with a woman whose husband just received an ALS diagnosis, and recognizing the look in her eyes as certainly as I know my own face in the mirror.

  • Watching the sun rise in my living room, morning after morning, knowing it was more than nature; it was proof of His faithfulness. Proof of His kindness. Proof of life.

Learning to immerse myself in the full beauty of each minute, without pushing ahead to the next hour or day or year, has been - without question - the most important part of 2018.

Seneca said, “Begin at once to truly live - and count each separate day as a separate life.” This quote has lived near my heart and on my calendar since July and while it adds a certain sobriety to my days, it also adds so much intentionality to every minute. I’m beginning, at the age of 53, to finally, fully realize the power of those 60-second units to challenge and change my life if I’ll let them.

I really want to let them.

With hope,


Whitney Parnell4 Comments